How to Ask for a Raise (Even if It Makes You Nervous)

Asking for a raise can feel intimidating, even if you know you deserve one. You might be thinking: “What if they say no?” or “I don’t want to come off as ungrateful.” But here’s the truth: advocating for yourself isn’t rude, it’s responsible.

If your work is valuable and your responsibilities have grown, your pay should reflect that. The key is not to walk in demanding, it’s to walk in prepared.

Here’s how to do it, step by step:

1. Know Your Worth

Before you even schedule a conversation, research the average salary for your role. Check sites like Glassdoor, Levels.fyi, or Payscale. Consider your location, years of experience, and any extra responsibilities you’ve taken on.

This helps you feel confident that you're not just throwing out a number, you’re backing it up with data.

2. Track Your Wins

Don’t walk in empty-handed. Keep a record of:

·  Projects you’ve led or helped complete

·  Results you’ve delivered (think: time saved, revenue generated, problems solved)

·  Any recognition, positive feedback, or above-and-beyond work

You want to show your manager exactly why you’re an asset, not just say it.

3. Choose the Right Time

Timing matters. Ideally, ask during performance reviews, after a big win, or when the company’s in a good place financially.

If none of those apply, it’s still okay to ask. You just want to avoid catching your manager off guard. Give them a heads-up by saying, “I’d love to set up a time to talk about my growth and compensation.”

4. Practice What You’ll Say

You don’t need to give a speech, but it helps to have a clear opening line. Something like:

“I’ve really enjoyed the work I’ve been doing and the progress I’ve made here. Based on the value I’ve brought to the team and some market research I’ve done, I’d love to talk about adjusting my compensation.”

Then… pause. Let them respond. Confidence doesn’t mean being loud, it means being clear and calm.

5. So...What Happens Next?

After you've made your case, be ready for any answer: yes, no, or “we’ll think about it.

❌ What to Do If the Answer is “Not Right Now”

If they say no, ask for feedback and a timeline:

“I understand. What would need to happen for a raise to be possible in the future?”

That shows you’re serious yet professional. Even a “no” can turn into a future “yes,” and now you’ve planted the seed.

✅ What to Do If the Answer is “Yes”

Amazing! If your manager agrees to a raise, celebrate quietly, then stay consistent.

Here’s what you don’t want to do: start slacking off or bragging about it around the office. This is the perfect time to keep showing up with the same energy that earned you the raise in the first place (or more!).

You might even say:

“Thank you. I really appreciate it. I’m excited to keep growing and contributing.”

That kind of response leaves a great impression and keeps the door open for future growth.

Final Thoughts:

You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to ask for more. You just have to believe that your work has value and be willing to speak up for it.

Even if it makes you nervous. You’ve got this.